Humans need each other, we crave intimacy, our brains are wired to release powerful stress releasing hormones. Lets be honest here though, when you are run down, under stress or just busy, it can be really hard to find your sexy.

Low libido is more common than you think, and not just in women, men too. There are so many factors that can be contributing to a low libido, never fear, there are also plenty of ways to get your sex drive back up and into action! 

Lets take a look at some of those.

BOOST YOUR LIBIDO WITH HERBAL TEAS

• Gingko Biloba is an amazing Chinese herb that helps to widen blood vessels and increase blood flow to the brain, which makes it great for improving memory and for circulation problems, also useful for sinus congestion, stubborn coughs and asthma. Because it increases blood flow, it acts as a natural Viagra as it increases the action of the nitric oxide in the body, helping to relax the artery walls so that more blood flows to the genitals, heightening sexual arousal, therefore helping to raise your libido. Even if your libido isn’t low, it is still fun adding some to your pot of tea.

• Another of our favourites is Damiana, traditionally used by the Mayan people as an aphrodisiac to boost sexual stimulation and stamina, it also helps with depression, impotence and menstrual imbalances. It enhances your libido and improves sexual functions in both men and women, enhancing blood flow to the genitals during sexual stimulation, increasing clitoral sensitivity and heightening sexual pleasure. It is also an incredible tonic for the kidneys, sexual organs and nervous system and does a great job at balancing the hormones and emotions. We love drinking it as a tea, if smoking is your thing then it can be used for that to give you a happy high as well.

• You may have heard of the next one, it is not a herbal tea but it deserves to be here, Maca, it has been used for thousands of years in Peru as a food staple, lately it has been classed as a “superfood” and it is, as it is also called natures Viagra as it has aphrodisiac qualities and has the ability to improve libido and sexual performance. Being high in vitamin B it also help raise energy levels and helps the body to cope with stress, we add it to smoothies and any raw treat we make, including homemade chocolate.

EAT THE RAINBOW

Let’s face it, if you aren’t eating a rainbow then you won’t feel good, therefore your libido will be non-existent.

LACK OF THE RIGHT MINERALS=NO SEX FOR YOU!

• B vitamins are found in dark leafy vegetables, wholegrain cereals, wheat germ, legumes, yoghurt, fish, chicken, eggs, bananas and potatoes.

• Non haem iron is found in legumes, wholegrain breads and cereals, green leafy vegetables, broccoli, spirulina and dried fruit.

• Haem iron is found in red meat, fish, chicken and eggs.

• Vitamin E is found in avocado, raw nuts and seeds, flaxseed oil, wheat germ and olive oil.

• Vitamin C is found in citrus fruits, kiwifruit, broccoli, capsicum and pomegranate.

• Zinc is found in pumpkin, sunflower seeds, nuts, spinach, garlic and oysters. Did you know that when a man ejaculates he loses precious zinc, so eat those oysters up!

• Magnesium is found in raw cacao, nuts, seeds, kelp, buckwheat and wheat bran.

• L-arginine is found in fish, chicken, meat, nuts, seeds and dairy products.

Good healthy food, free from chemicals additives and preservatives are good for our health AND our sexual health, so I am pretty sure you like to have sex, so I think it is in your best interests to eat at least two of those things each day!

DON’T FORGET THE CHOCOLATE!

Dark chocolate is an aphrodisiac, when you eat it, you actually get an increase of endorphins, the same chemicals your body releases when you are in love. Add a spoonful of cacao to smoothies or just gobble up some good quality dark chocolate, because a healthy heart means a healthy sex drive!

Here is our recipe for some guilt free, sexy chocolate.

• 1/4 c chai seeds

• 1/4 c sunflower seeds

• 1/2 c coconut flakes or shredded

• 1 tsp maca

• 1/2 c crunchy peanut butter, or any other nut butter 

• ½ cup liquid coconut oil

• 2 TBSP honey, more or less to taste

• ¾ cup – 1 cup cacao, depending on how dark you like it

• 4 drops essential oil of choice, optional, I use green mandarin, wild orange or ginger…yummmo

• 1 cup nuts, or fruit chopped or whole, optional

Mix it all together, either pop into moulds or one big block and slice up.
Place in fridge or freezer if you are impatient like me!
You can also take out the nuts and add fruit, play with it and make it your own

IS YOUR LIFESTYLE KILLING YOUR SEX DRIVE?

• If you are overweight, chances are you aren’t feeling sexy, this can affect your desire for sex, so if this is you, make some healthy changes to your diet and do a bit more exercise. If you love the way you are, don’t change a thing!

• If you aren’t exercising enough your blood flow and circulation will become stagnant, so get moving, boost those endorphins, improve your mood and get your sexy on.

• Stop hiding from the sun, we need sunshine it is our body’s way of getting much needed vitamin D, keeping our serotonin levels right and being one with mother nature, we need this so get out in it!

• Make sure you are getting adequate sleep

• Reduce alcohol, this is not an aphrodisiac, it isn’t going to improve your performance, it is dehydrating, so the blood pumps slower, so in fact too much alcohol and you can kiss that orgasm goodbye.

DATE NIGHT HERE WE COME!

• Get the kids off to bed

• Get rid of the technology from the bedroom

• Have a relaxing candlelit bath with some epsom salts and essential oils like rose, jasmine and neroli

• Wear something sexy

• Set the mood

• Light some beeswax candles

• Sprinkle rose petals

• Put on a diffuser.....find some sexy blends above in the first picture

• Put on mood music

• Comfy blanket on the bed, maybe try the waterproof sex blanket from Yoni, if you haven't got one, let me tell you, you NEED one! 

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Now spend time and reconnect with your loved one.

LIBIDO BOOSTERS

Here are some yummy recipes using foods that will give your libido a boost, if you have DoTERRA oils feel free to add some to the recipes, if not, they are great without them too. 

Did you know that we have sensual massage oils that you can purchase right here on our website?

Massage is a great way to connect with your partner.
You can use these blends to give a full body massage or a simple hand or foot massage.

Our Dreamy escape oil is designed for you to massage each other and feel like you are floating away on a mini vacation, why not turn your bedroom into a hotel from a far distant place, hang a “do not disturb” sign on the door, drape a fancy sheet over the headboard, sprinkle rose petals on the bed, grab a bottle of something bubbly, wine or lemonade, add flute glasses and our sexy chocolate or love truffles, maybe some candles, some mood music and one of the sexy blends in the diffuser.

Our aphrodisiac oil is sure to get you in the mood, this one is set up to light your inner fire! Make it a bit more special by setting the mood first, make it serene and comfortable, make sure your room is clean and uncluttered, ambient lighting like fairy lights or candles, rose petals (did you save the ones from last time, wink wink) try to have a special sheet or blanket you use for massage in case the oils make a mess, the squirt blankets are amazing for this, here is the link in case you need it again, some soft music playing, spice it up and use a blindfold and a feather tickler

Whether you are the giver or the receiver, a sensual, try wearing something silky and sexy, or a naked massage can be a great way to relax, romance, and connect with your spouse.

Start out with a light touch. Remember that your objective is to arouse, so regulate your pressure accordingly. Start with some long strokes with no oil down from the head to the toes. Touch very lightly, so you are just touching the hairs of the body. You can even try using a feather tickler to start the massage.

 Once the muscles have warmed up and are relaxed, increase the pressure. Knead the muscles around your spouse’s shoulders and neck using your thumb and forefingers. Most of us hold a lot of tension in our neck and shoulders. Keep in mind that you want to follow the flow of the muscles, not work against them. Pay attention to what pressure points your spouse is responding to.

Don’t just massage the back, make sure to massage the wrists, fingers, ears, the back of the neck, and the insides of the elbows and knees–these areas are probably rarely given any attention. Rub your fingers over your spouse’s scalp, massage and rub every finger and every toe.

Your spouse should be feeling really relaxed by now. Don’t forget to rub, kiss, lick, and even nibble on these neglected regions.

If your hands are getting sore try giving a sensual massage using other parts of your body. Your hands aren’t your only tools oil up your arms, chest, and stomach, use these parts to gently glide over the places that a “normal” massage would miss, this taunting massage will take it to the next level.

Remember this is an erotic massage.

Now you could add in the Erotic Ecstasy Massage Oil, this blend is genital friendly so you can use it to massage gently on his or hers genitals to help reach and prolong climax.

You can purchase any of these three massage blends from our online shop

Happy massaging!

Hugs Nic x